subtitled Transform From Chaos To Clarity By Embracing Your Authentic Self.
This book took me forever to read, and that’s a good thing. Despite being slender, with plenty of white space for readers to fill in with their own thoughts and responses to the prompts, it’s a very meaty volume for anyone genuinely interested in doing the work on making themself a better person.
Ofc the next question most people will ask is what is this work, and specifically what is shadow work? Mandi Em explains it much better than I do, but you know that weird kneejerk reaction you sometimes get that is definitely not you being your best self? Maybe it comes out in jealousy or anger or some other destructive — and often self-destructive — way, overwhelming your rational processes so that later you go, “whoa, I can’t believe I did that, and I’m not saying that in a good way, either.” That’s essentially your shadow self taking over, usually as a coping mechanism once learned in reaction to deep-seated trauma.
This workbook helps you take a look at yourself and figure out your own shadows, then walks you through the process of engaging with them, understanding what they’re rooted in and learning how to integrate them in a healthy manner. It is, thusly, A Lot. Ms Em approaches it all with humor and love, however, and strongly recommends getting professional help as well if possible. But if that help is not easily accessible or available, then this book is a spectacular way to get started on unlearning bad behavior via addressing what causes us to act in those manners. Perhaps most importantly, it teaches us how to be kinder to others by first of all learning to be kind to ourselves.